SeX Files: The Fantasy

The most intriguing feature of enjoying a fantasy is becoming immersed in the world you enter, and leaving the world you know behind. Your mind is the most important and valuable erogenous zone of your body.  I am sure you’ve heard the famous expression “use it or lose it”, this most certainly applies. Your mind is the toolbox of your sex life; if you don’t use each and every tool in as many ways possible, what you build in terms of a sex life will become exceptionally limited.  Let loose a little. Open that box. Explore the multitude of ways to use these tools and as you do, watch what happens when you create the blueprint of every sexual fantasy you could ever desire.

Most people barely begin to explore the depths of their sexuality in their lifetime. This is why passion ends (and why sometimes it is never ignited). The novelty of a new fuck is always and will always be exciting, but that novelty wears off the more frequently you fuck that particular individual. Even if you are with someone whom you share an abundance of chemistry and possibly even love with, you cannot escape the fizzling of passion that was oh-so-good once upon a fuck, if you do not dip into the inner world of your Sex God (or Goddess). The SexGod comment might be a bit of a cliché, but you’ll hate yourself if you do not listen to me. This, I assure you.

I cannot tell you what to fantasize about…because what I would share with you are fantasies significant only to me. Not that I am opposed to sharing what naughty world I like to enter in the dark of the night with any man who is willing to partake, but it would take away from your very own explorations of your own unique fantastical world.  You must learn to use your toolbox on your own. You have to see for yourself what sort of sex life you can create. Of course, some of you may find cross-dressing to be your calling, or a fetish for hooker shoes, gay porn, a leather whip and to be ticked with feathers. Some things you discover that turn you on may disgust you, but you are human after all. No big deal.

A happy relationship is more or less based on how deliciously satisfying the sex is. Sex makes all the difference; break up sex, make up sex, morning sex, after-work sex, during work sex, rooftop sex, dress up sex … Despite the fact that sex itself complicates things, eventually not having sex in any non-platonic relationship also complicates things. Sex is complicated, period. Deal with it. You will all get bored of whatever partner you choose, be it the Monday midnight, the ex-lover, your current love or your lifetime partner if you keep the same routine. For example, if you fuck in the same missionary position, switching to forward facing cowgirl, and maybe adding doggy-style (if they’re up for a classic), at the same time and same place every third day of the week then I can guarantee your relationship with said person will grow to be unsatisfying very quickly. You will probably wonder how it came to be so, what went wrong, where did all that hot fucking you used to do go? This is precisely the situation you need to avoid. To prevent this from happening you need to get out your toolbox and start creating and experiencing some kinky shit. Having sex with everyone allows you to explore and encounter things you never thought you could, but are entirely within the realm of possibility. Whether or not you choose to have sex with everyone for the rest of your life, or eventually just a particular special someone – the more you know about your own sexual preferences and boundless nature of your fantasies, the greater any sort of relationship you have with anyone will be.

The key to passion will always be the fantasy. Role play…dress up…act out things you suspect will turn you on. It may be a process of trial and error for a while but eventually you’ll find your niche. I guarantee that you will be pleasantly surprised at what makes your legs tremble, the person you are with moan with raw satisfaction and thirst for more, and the amount of sheer pleasure you’ll experience once you open your mind to the possibilities of your fantasies.  Make believe is a very, very powerful gateway to pleasure.

Chug a beer, fantasize, and have sex with everyone.