How To Be A Slut And Own It

PinkPolish | Oct 20, 2009 | Comments 10

Slutty_Slut_Slut_by_igaboo As mentioned in a previous post, I feel that women have a responsibility to assert ownership over their pussies; control the consumption of said product; and are obligated to freely practice this right whenever they so choose. However, for most women this idea seems foreign and distasteful. In reality many women secretly wish they could “fuck like men” but will never bring themselves to do it, as they are held back by fears of ruined reputations and “getting hurt.” Well, men manage it every day (or at least they try to) and despite what some may think, women can enjoy a little fucking for fuckings sake too. So, I have created some guilt-free guidelines to follow for you young ladies out there wanting to open yourselves up sexually to new and varied experiences.

Looking the Part: The most important thing to remember is that there is a difference between a ‘slut’ and a common bar whore, besides the remuneration. A proper slut, doesn’t: have her ass cheeks hanging out of her skirt; her thong pulled up to her ribcage outside her jeans; wear pants, skirts or shirts three sizes too small; display camel toe; have wardrobe malfunctions; or wear short shorts with 6-inch heels. A man may stare, stalk, grab and grope women who look like this at bars, but these are not the kind of men you want to sleep with. They are usually dirtier than you look in that whorish outfit. Instead, be confident and opt for something classy-yet-sexy. Something that shows off your assets, but doesn’t have him wondering what rash may lurk beneath that too-too short jean skirt.
Be Approachable: Whether you are sitting at the bar, or waiting in line for a drink it is important to always make sure that men feel that you are attainable. This doesn’t mean that you have to be the girl at the bar taking blow-job shots out of the crotches of the male patrons around you, all you have to do is learn not to look like a bitch. Smile often, laugh with your friends, make sure you move around and have times when you are not surrounded by a pack of women and give him an opportunity to swoop in. When you are talking to him make frequent eye contact, casually touch his arm, brush up against him, and flirt. It is OK to make sexual innuendos but don’t be trashy about it, most men don’t find outright sexual aggression attractive in women, they prefer the “girl-next-door”… with a dildo collection.
Grow Some Balls: There is only so much small talk and flirting that a man is willing to do with you at a bar before he wanders off to find something less time consuming. Therefore, it is critical that you find the balance between flirting and talking about your classes, and awkward pauses between questions about where you grew up, and if you have siblings. The best way to avoid this is to be upfront as soon as possible, once you have established that this is a guy you want to fuck and that there are no obvious barriers that are preventing it [ie. He is married, has a girlfriend, or is actually gay.] Don’t play the “give me your number and I will call you later” game. Look him straight in the eye and say something to the effect of. “Look, I think you are really good looking and I am very attracted to you and if you are interested I think we should both leave now.” There will be a longer than normal pause after this before he responds….don’t worry, he is not going to reject you. In fact at this moment he is standing there stunned silent because he cant believe this is actually happening. Once he is able to speak and wipe the stupid grin off his face the two of you will leave together, and then you are half-way there.
Don’t Shit Where You Eat: Never bring these guys back to your place. Part of being a real slut is being low-key about it, you don’t want to be the girl in your building seen walking in with a new guy every weekend. Besides possible difficulties it may cause with your neighbours you also don’t want this guy to randomly show up thinking your place is the Wendy’s of pussy: Open Late Night. For this same reason, avoid always hanging out at the same bars. You want to be elusive, not a sleazy fixture with a well-beaten corner.
You Are NOT His Girlfriend: Having sex within the strict confines of a relationship can work to inhibit your sexual urges instead of encouraging them. Women are constantly worried about the way they sound, the way they look, and the things that they want to do in bed for fear of what their partner may think. Well guess what, he doesn’t give a fuck about any of that and he is probably having a better time than you are. Therefore, if you want to learn to have sex and enjoy it in a casual setting let lose your inhibitions: get on top, move around, tell him to grab your hair, smack your ass, assert yourself and demand what it is that you want him to do. Tell him what you like and never be embarrassed; after all, casual sex means never having to lie about your orgasms. However, while it is important that you enjoy yourself, always ensure that your partner gets what they want too; you want to engage in a one-time affair with someone, not use them.
Avoid Attachment: Lots of women find themselves having sex with men after only knowing them for a short period of time, and afterward most engage in to “clinging-activities” to assuage their feelings of guilt. More than anything these are the things to be avoided at all costs. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT do ANY of the following: cuddle; make extended eye contact; give or receive a back rub; sleep over; wear his clothes; go for breakfast; ask for his number; give him your number; ask for his email/Facebook; give him your email/Facebook. Instead, once you are both satisfied get up and get dressed all the while telling him at length what a champ he is in the sack. Once you are ready, grab your things, thank him for a great time and kiss him on the cheek and leave.
Don’t Panic: Ok so this step marks your initiation into a (hopefully) successful first encounter. If you happen along your travels to run into this guy again, don’t worry or avoid him. Instead, walk up to him confidently and give him a coy and knowing smile and engage in some quick meaningless conversation. Once there is a lag, tell him it was nice to see him again and walk away. Never worry about what he is saying or thinking about you, the second you are out of range he will be saying to his friends “Hey! That’s that chick I was telling you about, the one that just fucked and ran.” They aren’t like catty women, threatened by your ability to take what you want, instead they will respect you for it. The best thing to do now is to get on with your daily life as if nothing happened, thinking back only every now and then on the good times you once shared. This is the beauty of the arrangement; one passionate night (hopefully he doesn’t suck in bed), no jealousy, fights, or broken hearts to mar the sweet sensual release that is fucking without guilt.