Hard to Get: Keep Your Pimp Hand Strong

Aside from long term relationships which eventually blossom into beautiful marriages, which blossom into baby factories, which blossom into a starting line-up in little league; most relationships inevitably fail.

We have already outlined the 5 steps of most relationships; this article is all about navigating those short lived relationships and using them as an opportunity to learn about yourself and more importantly, an opportunity to raise your game. I’m not talking about straight up playing games and mind fucking, I’m talking about subtle things that subconsciously tell your flavour of the month that you run your own show. Love it or leave it.

Playing hard to get is fun, and it can actually do wonders for the tier of girls you will attract (I’m going to keep this from a guy’s perspective because it’s what I know, but most of the principle ideas should relate)

Hierarchy of Attractiveness.
It exists.  Look at couples; for the most part their attractiveness will be on the same plane.  By not clamping on the first ball and chain available, you establish yourself as a challenge. Girls notice this.  They like it.  The story unfolds and you move up the ladder.
It will take time, but after doing the all the right things you should be able to land that superhot megababe of a girlfriend. It is not uncommon for this girl to be hit on 6-15 times a day or receive the odd marriage proposal. Land this girl and the next time your Dad says “Son, I’m proud of you” he’ll actually mean it.

Here are some guidelines:

Be hard to tie down.

Of course you want to spend time with this new person, but be strategic in the way you do it. Don’t overwhelm them, you’ll come off needy. There is no steadfast rule as to how often to hang out, but two guidelines to follow are:
Don’t always be the one to ask the other person asking, and; sometimes tell them you’re unavailable, even if you have to lie about it. The person who has nothing else going on in their life quickly becomes uninteresting.

Catch and Release.

Sometimes, to get the catch you’ll have to cast yourself out there and put in a little bit of effort. One must be careful in using this tactic; however, if used properly it can produce results you once thought impossible.
How its done: From the start it is established that she is the sought after one. This is the girl you’re chasing – and she knows it.  Now the idea is to briefly show her the attention she so craves and then flip the switch. She knows you’re interested in her, but is now wondering what the hell is going on – BUT she likes it. You quickly establish yourself as a challenge and in doing so may even turn the tables and become the sought after one. Sure you can give in here and there, but the idea is to have her calling you and breaking down your door because she can’t get through the night without a midnight slam.

Enjoy the Chase.

There comes a point when things will become, or at least should become mutually exclusive. Until the BOTH of you decide when point comes enjoy the chase a little bit. One thing I’ve learned is that when you’re at the height of your game, lending yourself to one mate is simply inefficient. Why not juggle 6? Give yourself options of who, if anyone, you’ll settle down with for an undetermined amount of time.  No one said you have to love monogamy all the time.

Ultimatums.

I mentioned above that BOTH parties need to agree on when they become mutually exclusive. Every now and then you’ll be lucky enough to get the “girlfriend” talk.  Or worse, a girl receiving the “boyfriend” talk (wow, that would be shameful).
Here is a rule I’ll stand by til I die: don’t force things onto an unnatural course. I’m all for open communication but this is anything but that. Its aggressive, and it shows weakness.
I’ve been given this ultimatum before – more than once in fact.  Something to the effect of “Look, either I’m your girlfriend or I’m nothing. Decide now.”  Wow –  Power move.  Well, I believe your shoes are by the door.  Have a nice life.
It’s not about being an asshole, it’s about not being forced to decide something you haven’t come to a decision on yet. Thanks for the push over the edge though.